No one sees the heartache behind mother-in-law's refusal to participate in wedding wine
Hi, everyone, I'm Tongtong's mother. Today is my husband’s cousin’s wedding day. The last time I was at my mother-in-law’s house, my mother-in-law asked me if I would go. I explained that I needed to go to work that day, and I had to rush back to take the baby after get off work. The mother-in-law said to take the baby. I also explained that now that the epidemic situation is serious, and there are many people at the banquet, the baby should try to avoid taking it. My mother-in-law said that these people did not go outside, and I said that if the people next to these people went, it would be troublesome. I can explain it this way. But anyway, I don't want to go. What happened to the baby's father now, I don't want to appear in front of his relatives again. Just like before, I have to show my family and friendship in front of my relatives, and it makes people mistakenly think that I am living a good life. You all enjoy the joy of family, but I am the only one who is not happy, so I can only laugh at it. I was unhappy and didn’t want to endure it any more, I just wanted to show it, and if I didn’t go, it was to express my dissatisfaction. I go to the relatives of the baby's father diligently, and I don't go to the ground every time. But sometimes let him go to my parents' relatives occasionally, I really do not want to. Last Spring Festival let him go to a cousin of mine to pay New Year's greetings, but he was reluctant. I quarreled with him for a long time, and threatened him not to go to my cousin's house tomorrow afternoon, nor to your sister-in-law's house tomorrow morning. Your sister-in-law still bullies my mother and me, why should I go to New Year's greetings? He later agreed to go. Now I have readjusted my attitude towards my in-laws and relatives. I follow my husband's family frequently with their relatives. I wanted to be in harmony, but those who treat you badly always pick on you, or even bully you directly. There is no need to force a heart that is not warm. Life is too short to force it. I don't think my husband's relatives need to go all the way around, and they don't have to go all the time. Why bother pretending to be a masked man in front of them. After my husband did this kind of thing, I didn't want to see anyone, not even my own relatives, and I was ashamed to see anyone. If I could find a place to work during the Chinese New Year this year, I would have excuses not to go back to my in-laws' house for the New Year. It is difficult for a person to integrate into a group, and it is even more difficult to get everyone's approval, and I am not good at communicating with people. Now I am even more depressed, and the window that was open to the outside world is gradually closing. I wonder if other people with depression are like me: Started rejecting a lot of things because of being hurt and curled up. In this way, I am even more confused about the future. Do I have the ability to change my life? But this little family can only rely on me. Let's talk about marriage. Never married before and have fantasies about marriage. I'm very disappointed in marriage now and really want to go back to when I wasn't married. I used to look forward to seeing other people get married, but now I see a sadness in my heart when I see others getting married. I am very disappointed in marriage. The more people I see getting married, the more people I always think will get divorced. Although I also believe that there is a good marriage in the world, it does not necessarily allow you to meet. Who has the courage to make such a big gamble again? Having been hurt, it seems that I can no longer believe in marriage. Even if you have sworn that you have said it, it can be regarded as just saying it, and it does not mean anything. If you believe it, you may lose. Marriage is really a tomb, easy to get in, hard to get out. Be sure to decide carefully!