"I'm short of 200,000 to buy a house, and my mother asked me to ask you for money": Be a mother-in-law, don't make small moves behind the scenes
Release time：2023-03-24 03:13:03 source：girasolehome.com author：Psychology
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"I'm short of 200,000 to buy a house, and my mother asked me to ask you for money": Be a mother-in-law, don't make small moves behind the scenes
I have wine and tea, if you have a story, come to me. Click "Follow" above, you are my person. 01 Stendhal's "Red and Black": "The more you defend yourself, the more you expose your faults." It's not terrible for a person to make mistakes, what is terrible is sophistry. If you are wrong, you are wrong. It is right to be criticized. It is right to have a dull face. It is a good comrade to admit your mistakes. Others will not pursue your faults, and you will correct your own mistakes with the blessing of a good attitude. . But if you make a mistake and quibble, either don’t admit your mistake, or bite back and say that others are wrong, you will only anger others, and the outcome can be imagined, no matter whether others punish you or not, you will not end well. If others punish you, you will be injured; if others do not punish you, if you do not recognize your own mistakes, you will make mistakes again and again. This principle applies to all interpersonal relationships, including the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Whether it is the daughter-in-law who made a mistake or the mother-in-law who made a mistake, the most critical step is to admit the mistake generously, and the person who loses in the end will definitely be the one who made the mistake. 02Before getting married, I naively thought that people would mature with age. After getting married, something happened that made me realize that some people are immature even though they are very old. I'm not talking about anyone else, but my mother-in-law. My aunt was short of money to buy a house. She even encouraged my aunt to ask me for money. Why? All the money in my hands was earned by me. Although their family spent money when they got married, they also gave me money, but after the marriage, they were used for the house and family, and most of the money was taken by her son. I used it up, and I didn't take any advantage of it. After her son's business failed, I didn't want to make life miserable because of it, so I found two part-time jobs on top of my original job. Although it is very tiring, I think it is worth it, because I think it is necessary to make money as soon as possible, otherwise when I get older, I will be powerless and unable to fight for my life. Everyone who knows me knows how difficult it is for me, and it is impossible for my mother-in-law not to know. However, judging from the fact that she encouraged my sister-in-law to ask me for money, she didn't pretend she didn't know, she was just stupid and bad. 03 When my aunt was looking for me, I was busy with work. She ran directly to my office and said to me in front of my colleagues: "I need 200,000 to buy a house, and my mother asked me to ask you for money!" The incident annoyed me, and with so many outsiders around, it made me even more ashamed. In order not to let my colleague gossip behind her back, I angrily scolded her: "Go home and tell my mother-in-law that I would rather divorce than help the poor! Just say this is my original story, she will come to me if she has the ability, and I will let everyone comment. Judge, let's see who is right and who is right!" Fortunately, my colleagues were protecting me and scolding my sister-in-law, and she just left. For the rest of the day, I was hooked and made several mistakes at work. The leader is a careful person. Seeing that I was in a wrong state, he asked me to go home to rest first, and then go to work after finishing the family affairs. I immediately decided to go directly to my mother-in-law for the theory, not wanting to sit still and wait for her to come to me to settle the account. Coincidentally, when I saw my mother-in-law, there were outsiders present. I didn't want to save face for her, so I asked her directly: "Why do you let your daughter go to my company and ask me for money? Do I owe your family money? I Is it easy to get up early and get into the dark to make some money? Why don’t you give me money? If you follow your logic, can I ask you if I need hundreds of thousands? Can you give me hundreds of thousands without blinking an eye?” Those outsiders persuaded me to say a few words less. I was about to give up, but my mother-in-law got excited and made all kinds of messy excuses. She didn’t forget to look through the old accounts and tell me how much the bride price was given to me and how much it cost to buy the house. As if I didn't spend a penny. Since she wants to settle the account, I will accompany her to do the calculation. In the end, if everything is measured in money, their family owes me more than 500,000 yuan. At this time, she was speechless and closed her stinky mouth. 04 I really don't understand how there is such an ignorant mother-in-law. She clearly made a mistake, but she tried so hard to argue, and she even said that I had a problem. It's a shame that I treated her well before. When I thought of buying it for her So many things, I feel a loss of panic. But it's not bad to recognize her true face now. Anyway, I'm not short of money and I'm not short of the ability to make money. As long as I stick to the current rhythm of life, life will definitely get better and better. Especially in the future, I don't need to pay for her, and I can save a lot of expenses, which is good. Frankly speaking, if she is willing to admit her mistakes when I ask her for a theory, I will not be rude, and I will treat her as kindly as before. But she wants to fight against me, violate my principles, and challenge my bottom line, so don't blame me for being rude. I am not boasting, even if I suddenly get divorced now, I have nothing to be afraid of, because I have developed the habit of working hard, I have enough energy to work hard, I am not afraid of hardship or fatigue, I can make myself Had a great time. Later, my husband may have been a peacemaker, and my mother-in-law came to apologize to me. I only did some superficial work symbolically, and I didn't forgive her in my heart, because she missed the opportunity to admit her wrong to me, and because she did not admit her wrong to me sincerely, I didn't need to forgive her. I sincerely advise other mothers-in-law not to play tricks behind their backs to calculate their daughter-in-law, especially when your daughter-in-law is very capable, you can treat yourself well by treating your daughter-in-law well, and you will not be old and helpless. In the same way, if you plan against your daughter-in-law, it is like calculating yourself. When you get old, no matter whether you will be old or not, don't let your daughter-in-law serve you.
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