Why are more and more elderly people remarrying tonight? There are just a few reasons behind it, it's very sad
The seventh census data shows that my country's elderly population exceeds 264 million, the scale of separation from households is approaching 500 million, and the number of widowed elderly is nearly 50 million. In life, many people interpret the elderly blind date show "It's Not Too Late" as a cross talk joke of Deyun Club. The sadness behind the excitement is worth thinking about by many people. Why are more and more elderly people remarrying tonight? In addition, the request of the aunt and uncle is particularly direct. There are not so many twists and turns on the blind date, and it goes straight to the theme: women hope to be guaranteed, and men hope to receive all-round care. The elderly who have experienced half-life ups and downs, on the road of aging, resist the decline of the body while resisting the loneliness in life, and also take care of the survival of their children. The weather-beaten elderly can probably maintain their material life, but in the Internet age, they choose to find a wife again because they are in the vortex of "loneliness" on the way to old age. Zhang Xiaoju, editor-in-chief of the column "It's Not Too Late" said: "At present, many elderly people feel very lonely because their children are not around. Many guests on the show have experienced the ups and downs of life, some middle-aged laid off, some The marriage is unfortunate, some are afflicted with diseases, and some even feel that death is approaching..." Why are more and more elderly people remarrying tonight? There are only these reasons behind it, but divorce, widowhood, separation of households... a reality that blows our face, let us faintly see the true state of the elderly in reality hidden under the appearance of the loneliness of the elderly. Assist the loneliness of children and children after taking care of their children, so that single elderly people want to have a companion
Single elderly people take care of their children after retirement, wait until After the grandchildren go to school, the elderly withdraw from the life of their children. Some old people are not far from their daughters, while some old people return to their hometown to live alone and leave their children and grandchildren. They feel lonely in their lives alone, and they will think of finding a partner to live with. In this way, the elderly not only have someone to accompany, but also can take care of each other in daily life, which not only reassures the children, but also allows them to rely on their hearts. However, the ideal is beautiful, but the reality is cruel. After the 62-year-old Auntie Su came back from her son's house in the south, she felt more and more lonely when she was alone. Especially at night, after dancing in the square, she was sitting on the sofa watching TV by herself. I fell asleep, and when I went to bed, I tossed and turned and couldn't fall asleep. I was thinking a lot and felt lonely. Under the persuasion of her close friends, Aunt Su also decided to find a partner and a wife to accompany and support her in her later years. Because in Aunt Su's heart, she still has to go to a nursing home in her later years. As for raising children and preventing old age, it is just a dream. Looking at her son's hardships, she still thinks that when she is in good health, it is better to find a wife. After some screening, Aunt Su and 68-year-old Uncle Zhao lived together. Uncle Zhao is a retired employee and has a monthly pension of more than 4,000 yuan, while Aunt Su is a retired teacher and has a monthly pension of more than 5,000 yuan. Uncle Zhao and Aunt Su discussed living in Uncle Zhao's house, renting out Aunt Su's house, and using the monthly rent as their living expenses, and then Uncle Zhao would pay 1,500 yuan per month. take money. Originally, this kind of partner was very good. Uncle Zhao had someone to cook three meals a day, and someone to accompany him to talk and laugh. But the human heart is not enough to swallow an elephant. Uncle Zhao didn't know who to listen to. He insisted that Aunt Su was too selfish, and he was struggling with Aunt Su that he had paid too much money, saying that Aunt Su asked him to work with him just so that someone would pay to support him. Aunt Su was very hurt when she heard these words. She felt that she didn't directly tell her living expenses and pocket money like the women in the dating shows, but everyone paid for it, and she thought she was not good enough. Then let's break up. Sometimes, the company of two people is more frightening than the loneliness of one person. People are old, and they have lived most of their lives, and they understand everything. It is normal to ask for it, but it is embarrassing to accompany you when you feel wronged. Let's live together, just for someone to make three meals a day for me
Lin Yutang once said: "Marriage is like a carved ship, it depends on how you appreciate it , and how to drive it." People get old, and the days of partner remarriage vary from person to person. Some old people feel that if they find a wife again, they should pay like their original spouse, pay without regrets, it is best to bring their own food, and don't make any demands on themselves, that is a real "good woman". It seems that in the hearts of these old men, there is always a selfless woman who lives. Whether it is the original wife or the remarried wife, she has to cook three meals a day for herself and take care of her daily life. Because the uncle who went on a blind date with this kind of thinking makes the aunt feel ashamed, how can a man get old or not grow up like a teenager after half a lifetime of trials and hardships? Just like a 73-year-old man asked his blind date, would you serve others? Can you take me away? Those who don't know think that the uncle is looking for a nanny, but in fact, the uncle is a "human essence" and just wants to find a "free nanny" who is responsible for cooking and laundry for himself. It is better to take the initiative to post. The 73-year-old Uncle Zhang, whose wife has been gone for five years, now has a pension of more than 4,000 per month and a pension of more than 200,000. He lives in a two-bedroom house. But in Uncle Zhang's heart, he is the "Diamond King and Fifth" among the elderly. It's no exaggeration to find any aunt to remarry. It is better to be as young as possible, so that he can serve him for a few more years. However, the aunts are not "devotees" either. When they came up, they told Uncle Zhang that it was not impossible to take care of you, but first transfer the 200,000 savings in your hand to me, which is a guarantee for me in my old age. Only then can I prepare three meals a day for you with peace of mind, take care of your food and daily life, and wait for you until a hundred years later. When Uncle Zhang heard that the aunt wanted him to be more than 200,000 yuan as a guarantee for his old age, he said that the aunt came on a blind date to cheat money, but the aunt said that the uncle should go home and buy a mirror. When you are old, it is normal to find a wife again, but you should also look for it according to your actual situation, instead of asking others to pay you wishful thinking. After years of polishing the elderly, what kind of life has not been experienced, and there is no sincere and naked transaction, but it is not as good as a person who spends the rest of his life alone. The elderly who sincerely help and partner with sincerity are the favorite companions in their later years.
Mr. Yang Jiang interprets the meaning of marriage in this way: "It's not about dragging down Each other, but in life, encouraging each other, encountering things, being able to have a personal discussion, going home from work, having a meal with someone, being wronged outside, returning home and having a warm hug. Life is too long , There must always be someone who knows and accompanies each other. When people are old, the rest of their life is short and precious. It is the most beautiful old age for the elderly to meet a sincere and honest wife, remarry and live the rest of their lives together. Community The 76-year-old Uncle Qin and the 65-year-old Aunt Zhou have been working together for more than ten years. Because Aunt Zhou has no social security and medical insurance, Uncle Qin keeps 2,000 yuan in the account of Aunt Zhou every month, and also makes a will in advance saying that he has three sets of three. Aunt Zhou can live in the apartment for a hundred years. During Chinese New Year and festivals, the children of Uncle Qin’s family will also take the initiative to send red envelopes to Aunt Zhou, thanking Aunt Zhou for taking care of Uncle Qin, and the monthly living expenses are also paid in time. In Aunt Zhou's hand, usually not counting the money that Uncle Qin keeps for Aunt Zhou, he will also give Aunt Zhou an additional 1,500 yuan in pocket money. Some people say that Aunt Zhou is too stupid and should go to someone else's house to be a nanny, because she does The nanny earns money, lives with Uncle Qin, and looks at giving Aunt Zhou 3,500 yuan a month and a red envelope, but because they need Aunt Zhou now, if Aunt Zhou is in poor health, she may be swept out of the house. When a person is old and looking for a wife, it seems to be because of love at dusk, but it is actually the old man’s cherishing of life. The old man becomes more and more dependent on the company around him as he grows older, and even needs someone to accompany him more than the young man. Together, even if you don't speak, having someone by your side is a source of security and sustenance. Haruki Murakami once said: "I always thought that people grow old slowly, but it's not, people grow old in an instant. "A person gradually grows old, becomes more and more lonely, and finally leaves the society. We must understand those old people who hang out every day, not because the sun is good outside, but because of the popularity and company outside. The elderly remarry. Loneliness originates from the heart, but the outcome originates from the health of the elderly. When you are in good health, everything is fine, the body cannot take care of itself, and it is miserable to live. When people get old, loneliness can be resolved by itself, but in bad health it is The evening scene is sad, and health is the most important thing! Author: Huagui Zenxin pays attention to my words and walks into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can chat with you for the rest of your life. The pictures in the article are from the Internet.