Zhihu Gaozan: What are some minimalist life advice?
"I think my life is really ordinary. I go to get off work and go to work every day, and my life has no life at all." "I bought some books with the bear, but found that I couldn't calm down and read... Only through Zhihu. Sounds, Xiaohongshu, read some sentences in pieces. But after reading, I still feel that the sentences that Xiong sends are the most interesting! So whether the content of Xiong's next issue can be published in one issue, it is useful to ordinary people, simple but A daigo-inspired theme of life principles?" Huh? After reading it, Xiong found that this friend asked for a lot of content? But hey, everything is arranged~! Ordinary people are useful, simple, enlightening, and about life, all in line! If you put it on Zhihu, Xiaohongshu and other platforms, it will be like the one with thousands of praises! Let's not sell it, these sentences are from the book Xiong shared today: "Understood". The author of the book, Liang Xiaosheng, is a well-known domestic writer and scholar, and a professor at Beijing Language and Culture University. On August 16, 2019, he won the 10th Mao Dun Literature Award for his long-length masterpiece "The World"; in February 2022, CCTV will broadcast the TV series "The World" adapted from the novel of the same name, which is popular all over the Internet. This "Understood" is Liang Xiaosheng's book to solve puzzles for new young people. He used his 70 years of life insights to answer: living an ordinary life does not mean mediocre; ordinary people can also live an ordinary life well, and an ordinary life is worth living. The "ordinary" mentioned here corresponds to the secular "uncommon", that is, to have a successful career, to be successful, and so on. In this book, he also shared his insights on how ordinary people live a good life, which Xiong will share with you today. I hope these minimalist life suggestions will inspire everyone~ The most suitable one is the most beautiful. Which young man did not have ideals? Who is willing to live a mediocre life? As Mr. Liang said, when we were young, we were unwilling to be ordinary, and adhered to the ideal of making people have indomitable spiritual strength. Therefore, ideals are painful when our urge to realize this desire is frustrated. So, even so, should we stick to our ideals? Mr. Liang thinks so: "I think that having an ideal is a correct attitude to life, and giving up an ideal is also an attitude to life." He said that sometimes it is wiser to give up an ideal as an art of living. Having an ideal and a pursuit is a proactive way of living. It is a proactive way of living by not being tortured by an unrealistic ideal or pursuit, and adjusting the direction of choice. "No matter what kind of living method, as long as it is most suitable for you, it is the best and most beautiful." Of course, the premise is that this must be a normal and decent living method. The way of life of a thief or a liar, no matter how suitable it is for oneself, is not enough. In the book, Mr. Liang mentioned a young woman in rural Sichuan who wanted to worship the famous female writer Tie Ning as her teacher and hoped to become a great writer herself. Tie Ning told her that no writer can guide a person to become a writer, and persuaded her to find a job before thinking about writing. Then, she returned to the county to find an ordinary job and made writing a daily habit. Finally, the articles she wrote were published in regional newspapers and periodicals, and later, because of this "skill", she was transferred to the county family planning office for publicity. Later, she found a good husband, formed a warm family, had a lovely child, and lived a very happy life... She found the most suitable coordinates for her in the place where she lived. For her, it was the best life and the most beautiful. On the other hand, when some young people talk about ideals, they often ignore the space-time distance between reality and ideals. Or even though he admits that there is a distance, he believes that as long as time moves, one step can be crossed. And Mr. Liang answered heartily: In fact, there are some distances that cannot be crossed in a lifetime. Xiong felt that Mr. Liang's answer was not a form of mourning, but a more rational and positive attitude towards life. Because, "As long as it is not poor, miserable, unfortunate after another, it is a normal life, and it is worth living well." Reading is one of the most worthy things. "Reading is the most worthy thing to do. If you read a good book, it will have an impact on you." For Mr. Liang, reading is a person's "underground color". In the field he is familiar with, he can even say exactly: Except for books, there is no other way for ordinary young people to walk on the path of scholars and writers. Of course, reading is just as important for people who are not in the writing profession. "As long as you have spent ten years or more reading a good book, no matter what you do, you will be confident." Xiong also always believes that there are no books you read in vain in life, and every page counts. The nutrients of those books have long nourished our lives without knowing it. Active life, may wish to do subtraction. In the book, Mr. Liang mentioned that several young people who were in his family suddenly and enthusiastically discussed life. In their view, the so-called positive life must be like this-making life a process of continuous "enlargement", which can be considered to keep pace with the times and not be wasted. Mr. Liang was puzzled: "What is the life of 'enhancing'?" A young man took out his mobile phone and put it on the table, pointing and saying, "It is like life is this mobile phone, of course, the more functions, the more advanced. With few functions, it is undoubtedly outdated and will be eliminated. Mobile phones must be constantly updated, and the same should be true in life." Teacher Liang retorted, just like he does not use a mobile phone, nor does he surf the Internet. For example, it is enough to buy the lowest grade. Therefore, he believes that the life of subtraction is not necessarily a positive life. "Some 'life programs' can be deleted from one's own mind." Mr. Liang also said that the reason why some people complain about the fatigue of life may be precisely because the 'capacity' of life in their minds is too large and too mixed As a result, even the way of life that suits you best is lost. In Xiong's view, as Mr. Liang said, the so-called active and sober life is nothing more than finding the most suitable way of life for oneself. More or less, wide or narrow, it’s just our own feelings, there’s no right or wrong~ Give your mind some respect. There are always some voices that dominate the mainstream: to get married and have children, to have a successful career, to work hard, to introvert... Under the influence of these mainstream voices, the voice of our own minds will always be questioned: "Is it abnormal for me not to get married? ?" "My idea of lying flat is wrong." "What others say makes sense." ... But Teacher Liang believes that this means that we have lost respect for our own minds. Must we be thinking wrong? uncertain. Most people agree, must be right? uncertain. Mr. Liang believes that we should give some respect to our own minds. This will enable us to have our own independent opinions in dealing with life, career, fame and fortune, fashion, love, family, friendship, etc., instead of just listening to what others say. It will be simpler and clearer about the direction in life that you want to go. Walk with your desires and not get tired of them. Teacher Liang pointed out that the desires of modern young people are too full... Of course, everyone has a desire - it exists in our hearts, we live for it down-to-earth, and approach it patiently. And even if it doesn't come true, we can give up and redirect our efforts to other desires that are easier to achieve. But what Mr. Liang said about desire is that it appears in the form of desire, but it is far more detached from reality than desire. For example, Mr. Liang believes that the vast majority of young men and women today are still pursuing the goal of ordinary people in their lives: nothing more than a stable job and a two-bedroom or one-bedroom house. And because in the metropolis where the price of land is expensive, their wishes show the characteristics of desire - in any case, having a house in a first-tier city is the most important. Teacher Liang said that this is a psychological problem of this generation of young people, and it is also a social problem. So what kind of positive attitude should we face these problems? Teacher Liang's answer is that you can do whatever you want without being burdened by it. Is buying a house or a car for the sake of having a home (desire) or to show status (desire)? Pursuing desires is happy, but pursuing desires is often exhausted by them; we can’t completely get rid of desires, but please remember to maintain an attitude of “three parts desire, seven parts rationality” to face the current pursuit life. "It doesn't matter, we are all just ordinary people." Xiong thinks that it is best to shine brightly, but in real life, it is not so easy. We will do wrong things, meet the wrong people, and waste a lot of time to get a very ordinary looking But what about life? It's not a waste to find your own suitability and love in ordinary life, everyone, good night~