Mid-autumn festival for single women
"People have joys and sorrows, and the moon is cloudy and sunny. It is difficult to complete this matter. I hope that people will last a long time and live together in a thousand miles." Today is the Mid-Autumn Festival. and twinkling lights at night. People in the community come and go with relatives and friends. Someone in the community group announced that there will be a wedding tomorrow. If the elevator is busy, please forgive the neighbors. Yesterday, after watching the "Mid-Autumn Psychedelic Light and Shadow" water light show, I woke up this morning with a cold, and my voice was so hoarse that I could not speak. I wanted to go down and practice boxing with my boxing friends, but I thought it would be better to self-isolate. A few days ago, I called my parents and chatted for a long time. My father persuaded me not to let myself be too tired. I have more than 3,000 monthly pensions to live on, so there is no need to go to work. I understand my old father's intentions, but I just want to give myself a job, not only to let myself have something to do, but also to reduce the thoughts of my deceased husband in my heart. I mailed moon cakes to my in-laws far away, and made a voice call last night. My mother-in-law lost the indifference she had last year, and she was a little relieved. After greeting each other, my mother-in-law told me to pay attention to my body and told me that they would support my granddaughter's education, so that I could relax and live my life well. Don't get tired. The change in my mother-in-law's attitude to me reminded me of this sentence Zhou Rong said in "The World": "The farther you go, the more knowledge you have and the more people you know, the more you can realize that in this life, There are only a few people who you really care about and who care about you at the same time. These few people are your whole world." My family is my whole world. We have known each other for half a lifetime, we have been together for 30 years, and we are forever separated
I am 53 years old, retired for three years, and my wife left me for two years . When I saw someone in the community saying that I was getting married tomorrow, I suddenly remembered that my wedding anniversary is also tomorrow. I remember asking my husband at the time, why didn't his family choose to get married on the Autumn Festival? My husband said at the time, how can we disturb others and let others celebrate our wedding when they are reunited? Happy to miss a day. My wife and I grew up in the same campus, and both parents were colleagues in the same system. When I was a child, I lived with my grandparents in my hometown. When I was in the third grade, my mother took me back when I was in good health. When I met my wife, I was 10 years old. We went to junior high school in one school and technical school in the other. We were assigned to work in the same factory. Then we got married, had a daughter, and everything went smoothly. That year, our factory was restructured, and my husband started his own business after buying out his seniority. I continued to stay in the factory. After the ups and downs of the enterprise, and the rebirth of Nirvana after the joint venture. I feel that I am really lucky in my life. Life, work, marriage, and family are all so smooth. However, God is fair and will not concentrate all the good things in life on one person. In the first year after retirement, my wife felt uncomfortable when he woke up in the morning. We thought it was because he was too tired from playing last night and had a sore arm, so we didn't care that much. Who knows, in half an hour, my wife's arm became uncomfortable, her face became more and more wrong, and finally she twitched. When 120 came and arrived in the hospital, the person left before he had time to do an angiogram. I didn't say a word, but the lover I had known for half a lifetime and had been with me for 30 years just left me. Sadness, pain, and helpless pain, only time can heal. Single life for 2 years, self-healing from sadness
My husband is gone, my daughter is still in graduate school, I have to be strong, this is what I often say to myself silently the words said. After dealing with my husband's death, I became a single woman. Living in a room where we have lived for over 20 years feels helpless and desolate. Whenever someone persuaded me to live in my parents' house for a period of time, or to live in the city where my daughter was studying, I refused to go. Because it carries the happiness and joy of the first half of my life. We have renovated this house twice, this time it was renovated according to my wishes, with an idyllic style. At that time, my husband also said that there will always be a "girlish heart" in my heart. I remember Mrs. Sheng told Minglan in "Knowing or Not" that after a woman gets married, she lives less and less because she lives comfortably and her husband treats women well. After being happy for half my life, I suddenly let myself live alone, and it seems that I have become an "imbecile". My friend told me about the payment of water, electricity and heating. I learned to cook the food according to the video, and I reorganized the wardrobe by myself, and then I slowly got out of the mentality of relying on my husband. Most of the time, the big reason is understood, that is, I don’t want to get out of that sad emotion. Maybe, only after going through such pain can I live strong. I know that in my marriage to my husband, I am too dependent on him. Since he bought out and started his business, he has not told me about all kinds of difficulties. He has carried everything by himself and left a legacy to my daughter and me. At first, I couldn't eat or drink, and all I thought was "I'm sorry" all day. I am sorry for my husband, let him bear so many hardships of life alone, and sometimes complain about his bad. After 2 years of living alone, now I finally got out of the psychological shadow of losing my husband. I can talk to my daughter about my husband's past normally, and I can accept my mother-in-law's attitude towards me, knowing that these are my family members and my recent support. After getting out of sadness, a wonderful retirement life by myself
The Mid-Autumn Festival alone should also have a sense of ritual. In the morning, I made soy milk, boiled eggs, and ate my daughter. Mooncakes sent back. At noon, I made prawns and chicken soup for myself, plus two vegetarian dishes, making my festival full of ritual. Life is always one's own, no matter how abused by the years, life will always move on. Last year, I found myself a job as an auntie in our community kindergarten. Every day with the children, I feel full of vigor and vitality. After returning home at night, I study with the writing teacher, and write drama reviews while chasing dramas. Days are spent in busyness, and life is wonderful because of busyness. In the community, when there is a need for volunteers, I will sign up to participate. Some time ago, I signed up as a volunteer in a nursing home, chatting with the elderly on weekends, or trimming their nails or something. Time will not be paused because of the death of a loved one, nor will it be reversed because of someone's mood. The years are long, and the time is like water. I have to live a wonderful and beautiful life alone. Living my life alone as a joy for me and him is the best thing I miss for him. Today is the Mid-Autumn Festival, here I wish all my friends a happy Mid-Autumn Festival! Family fun! All the best! Good health! Author: Huagui Zenxin pays attention to my words and walks into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, let's talk about the rest of our lives together. The pictures in the text are from the Internet.