What will a single retired uncle do when he faces a young woman? Listen to what the 70-year-old has to say
With the advancement of society and the development of science and technology, people's life expectancy is prolonged, and more and more single elderly people appear in life. Some single elderly people are forced to be single, and some elderly people take the initiative to be single; but when people are old, the biggest confusion of single people is not the problem of food and clothing, but companionship. The old age without a wife is lonely and miserable. In life, the blind date corners in the parks in the city are all single elderly people looking for their company in their later years. Thinking that if you can meet someone who is related to you and accompany you for a ride, it will also be a kind of happy life. However, people with a heart have found that many elderly people who are with partners are mostly men who are significantly larger than women. Some people joked that when single elderly people go on a blind date, the ten-year gap has just started. Is this the real situation? When single retired grandfathers show affection to women much younger than themselves, what will they do? How will it end between them? The 70-year-old Uncle Qin shared his two relationship experiences, and also shared the heart throbbing of single uncles after retirement when they were courting young women, and the real reason why they didn't get together. Speaker: 70-year-old single retired grandpa
First time It's for a free tour
I am 70 years old this year, retired for ten years, single for 15 years, and my only daughter has already married and gave birth to a child outside the country. Now I live alone. My first wife and I have been married for 30 years. I dare not say that I am a good husband and a good father, but I am also a good man who dares to love and hate. I know my wife's feelings for me, and I also know that I am the backbone of the family. . Since I got the certificate with my wife, I only leave some pocket money for myself every month, and give the rest to my wife. When I was young, I would take the initiative to do more part-time jobs, just to make my wife and daughter have a better life. I don't smoke or drink. In my heart, I can bring a good life to my family. I'm a successful man. As for the rest, I'm just passing through life. Short-term happiness will only make men lose themselves. The days of happiness are always short. I was still planning the dream of "walking the world with swords" with my wife after retirement, but it was permanently stranded due to the sudden death of my wife. Some people say that I was the fifth diamond king at the time. I had money, a house, a car, a deposit, and a middle-aged uncle with no burden. What kind of woman could I find? After my wife left for 3 years, I went to the square to learn Tai Chi with others, looking for a hobby for my retirement. Where did I meet Xiao Zhang, who was ten years younger than me. She was only 45 years old at the time, and she belonged to a special type of enterprise who left early. A woman in her 40s who has persisted in practicing Tai Chi for a long time, her body and appearance are still different from those of her peers. At that time, in the face of Xiao Zhang's initiative to show his favor and take the initiative to teach Tai Chi, he still had the pride of a man in his heart, and felt that he was not old enough to make others greasy. However, the development of things is that I think more. Although Xiao Zhang is a single woman, there are still many men who pursue her. She took the initiative to make friends with me, but she also has some intentions. We participated in the Social Fitness Sports Invitational Tournament. After participating, we had free room and board, but we need to pay for the round-trip expenses. At that time, Xiao Zhang showed her goodwill to me, which made me feel very comfortable, so I took the initiative to take her round-trip air tickets, and during the competition, we bought a lot of local products when we were visiting the local area, as well as several fashion items for her clothing. I thought that my efforts would be rewarded when I came back. Unexpectedly, Xiao Zhang not only did not continue to show affection to me, but also took the initiative to ask the association to go to another training place to teach boxing. This made me puzzled. I took the initiative to invite Xiao Zhang to have dinner together, and I just wanted to ask clearly, was the couple we were pretending to be during that visit? Who knows, Xiao Zhang said that I am. I am old and think too much. If I am not sincere, I will not be with her. I also bought so many things. Come to the team. Later, I finally figured out that I'm just a "disposable item" for young women, and after using it, I'll take care of myself. The second time was to be able to finance my son's marriage
With the "hurt" of the last time, I started to distance myself from single young women, consciously or not, feeling that I sometimes There is too much love, and it really answers the saying "people are stupid and have more money", and staying away may be self-protection. When I was 66 years old, an old colleague around me introduced me to a partner. I didn't want to. I felt that if I got a license to remarry, or I would live alone, what would it be like to be a partner? Later, I couldn't stand the warm invitation of my old colleague, and I attended a party organized by him. I met Xiao Zhao, who was 16 years younger than me. At that time, Xiao Zhao had just retired and his only son was in graduate school. He was a divorced woman. Xiao Zhao is very satisfied with me, he has been taking the initiative to serve me vegetables, find a topic for me to talk about, and we have added WeChat to each other. Every day, there will be her warm instructions to wear more clothes, drink more warm water, and occasionally take the initiative to make some delicious food for me to send to the place where I practice Tai Chi. After a long time, the eldest sisters of good deeds made fun of me, and let me treat me with a smile, saying that I am not very happy. After we got along, Xiao Zhao cooked food for me in different ways every day, took the initiative to go to my house to help organize, tidy up my cabinets, tidy up my clothes for all seasons, and taught me to learn to "break up" , Clean up all unnecessary things, and the home will be more refreshing. Just when I was full of passion for the future in my heart, Xiao Zhao told me that it is not impossible for us to get a license to remarry, but she has one condition. As long as I agree, she will remarry me immediately. I asked Xiao Zhao with warmth, what is it, as long as I can do what you said, I will definitely satisfy you! Who knows, Xiao Zhao said shyly for a long time, my son is going to work soon, and he has a partner. I hope that when he gets married, you can help my son pay a down payment for a suite. If you help my son get married, I will serve you well in the future even as a cow and a horse. I was stunned all of a sudden, and it turned out that I also had an intention, not only to look at me, but to look at my pension and savings. At that time, I had a monthly pension of more than 4,000 yuan, and I had hundreds of thousands of savings in my hand. All of the remarriage had to support Xiao Zhao's son. In the future, in Xiao Zhao's words, her son will give me pension, and I will spend money to find it. It is not a loss to have a son in retirement. The second time a young woman showed her kindness to me, I saw it again. Apart from having real feelings when you were young, getting old is a naked transaction. Companionship, care, and retirement are all long-planned calculations. Concluding remarks:
Mr. Yang Jiang interprets "disappointment" in this way: I thought of leaving you, it's not that you are bad, it's not that I don't love you anymore, it's just that Your attitude towards me makes me feel that your world does not lack me. In fact, I can be cheeky to pester you again, but I don't think it makes any sense anymore. Don't bother, maybe it's the last way to love you. When people are old, they also need the nourishment of love. The pursuit of love is never a young thing. However, if there is no sincere and sincere relationship, for single elderly people, it is a transactional love at dusk. It is better to be alone in being sad, and to be well alone is also a way of life. Today's Uncle Qin no longer believes in those women who are much younger than him. In his heart, he feels that at this age, it is ideal to have company, and it is normal to have no company. Live well and enjoy your life, only then can you It's the best way to treat yourself. Author: Huagui Zenxin pays attention to my words and walks into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, let's talk about the rest of our lives together. The pictures in the text are from the Internet.