The older you are, the less you care, the better you live
Bai Luomei said: "Drink a cup of tea until it is tasteless, listen to a song without rhyme, read a book until it has no words, and love a person to the point of no heart." , a cup of tea, poetry and painting, let the ordinary days like water feel at ease in the fragrant fragrance, this is the leisure day that many elderly people dream of after retirement. In fact, no matter how beautiful it was and how old it was, the most rare thing is not to be full of friends and to change cups, but to live a quiet life, indifferent at heart, and live a contented life. I have heard a saying: troubles have no roots, if you don't choose, you will naturally have no roots. In life, unhappy things happen nine times out of ten, and most of the troubles come from inner obsessions. The more you care about something, the more torment you, the higher your expectations, the deeper your disappointment. When people get old, the less they care, the better they live. Don't care about the "basic diseases of old age" to accept the old self calmly
Bacon once said: A healthy body is a It is the living room of the soul, and the sick body is the confinement room of the soul. When people get old, the most important thing is health. Some basic diseases of the body are actually not serious diseases, but an appearance of physical aging. You don't need to care about them all day long, or you will live cautiously because you care too much about your own. In life, there are many beauty-loving women who spare no expense to perform minor surgeries on their own bodies. Although they can retain their youth for a while, they cannot stand the temper of the years. Aging is a natural law, and we accept it as it is. it is good. When I saw 84-year-old Wu Yanshu won the Tiantan Award for Best Actress, I felt that accepting the gifts of the years frankly and naturally is the best mood in old age. When people are old, they don't care about the "basic diseases of aging", insist on exercising, aging indifferently and leisurely, and live out oneself quietly and live out what one wants. Do not care about "whether your children are truly filial", you can live a good old age with peace of mind
In real life, there are many only children who have to rely on their parents when they become adults The subsidized life of the elderly is called "gnawing the old" by the elderly. I feel that such children are not filial to their parents, they do not take the initiative to honor their parents with some money, and they always try their best to steal their pension money from their parents. In fact, when people are old, they have to learn to look down on everything. After years of tempering, they have already seen the vicissitudes of the world and the coolness of the world. Parents and children are nothing but a love relationship in this world. If parents use their children to support themselves, they are often calculating their children. Therefore, in the face of aging, we should not care about whether our children are sincere and filial, so that we can live our old age with a good attitude. In the past, there were many old people and children. One was not concerned about this and that one. In short, they could still enjoy the fun of old age. However, our generation of only-child parents has only one child. The relationship between them has been twisted, and it is difficult for anyone to live a good life. When we are old and don’t care about “whether our children are truly filial”, our hearts are quiet, we will neither compare with anyone’s children, be filial, nor will we entangle ourselves because of their children’s filial piety, resulting in bad behavior. Mood. Don't care about "wife's inadvertent words", can go to sunset hand in hand
After leaving home for 2 years, Su Min returned home on Mid-Autumn Festival and was told by his wife It's "I can't get along, I know I'll come back", and there are messy dishes all over the place mixed with "disagreement". There were various voices from netizens, some people persuaded to "divorce quickly, such a man is still staying for the New Year!" Some netizens said, "I left home quietly for 2 years, and also announced the family's unhappiness to the public, who is embarrassed for it? It is generous to give her the door to go home." Don't persuade others to be kind without suffering others. We don't know the specifics of their family, so it's hard to persuade, but marriage is always a matter of two people. Especially the old people who have gone through the years and the wind and rain, have already understood their own hearts, and no one can change them. When people are old, husbands and wives have lived together for decades, and everyone knows each other's temperament and personality. day. If a husband and wife are too concerned about everything, there will be entanglements in their hearts. Why did he say that to me today? Tomorrow she will wonder in her heart whether he has an outsider, and how are you going to live this day? When people are old, if there is no question of principle and they have not reached the point of breaking up, then they don’t have to care about the other party’s sometimes blunt and unintentional words. Everyone has emotions and temperaments. If they know each other, they should be more tolerant. , with more consideration and understanding, can we truly go hand in hand to the beauty of the sunset. Do not pay attention to "all kinds of nonsense of others", only then can you meditate for the rest of your life
Schopenhauer said: "One of the most special weaknesses of human nature is that we care too much How others see themselves." Those who care too much about other people's gossip in life often make their life very tired, and even live their lives beyond recognition in the words of others. Don't take other people's evaluations to heart, in order to be the helm of your own life. "The Courage to Be Hated" wrote: "If you don't pay these prices, you won't be able to carry out your way of life, that is, you won't be able to get Freedom." When people are old, they have withdrawn from the crowd. If they still care about other people's nonsense, then their life is only for others to see, and it is impossible to cultivate themselves in meditation. Some people practice Buddhism and Taoism, but they always want to live a top-notch life in the crowd, forgetting that practice is just cultivating the body and mind. In fact, when you are old, what other people say has nothing to do with you, even if you live according to your own wishes, as for other people's broken words, let it go with the wind. Living well is the best life for the rest of your life. No matter when, the most pleasing is always yourself. The light in other people's eyes and the broken words in their mouths will neither illuminate the path of your own life, nor will you achieve the rest of your life. If you don't care about these, you will live happier and happier. Concluding remarks:
Cartoonist Jimmy said: If you are entangled in one thing for a long time, you will be annoying, painful, epiglottis, tired, and devastated. will be heartbroken. In the end, it's not that you can't get along with things, but you can't get along with yourself. When people get old, there are fewer and fewer things that can affect the heart. Learn to cut complexities and simplify them, keep your inner panic, put aside past entanglements, and find peace in your heart. Only after crossing various barriers can you embrace the splendid rest of your life. When you are old, I hope that in the days to come, you will not be troubled by your heart, not trapped in your emotions; not afraid of the future, not thinking about the past, the less you care, the better you will live. Author: Huagui Zenxin pays attention to my words and walks into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, let's talk about the rest of our lives together. The pictures in the text are from the Internet.