55-year-old aunt: I have money and a house, and I can't even meet the three requirements to find a wife, so I might as well not marry
When we are young, we all look forward to being able to grow old alone, choose a city to die, and the marriage and love that grow old together must be enviable and cherished. However, the world is impermanent, and it is inevitable to encounter various accidents in the journey of life, or there is not enough emotional foundation between husband and wife, and gradually conflicts begin to arise, and eventually the scene disappears, or the day does not meet the wishes of the people, the partner The early death of a certain party will make a party still live alone after his old age. Once lost, it is very difficult to recover it again. So there was remarriage. The marriage life of remarriage does not only exist in some young people, or in the life of middle-aged people, there will also be some elderly people who will think about finding a new wife to live after retirement, in order to get a share of their own. In order to have a partner and a talking partner in the later years, this is often one of the reasons why many people first look for a wife, but they want to find a wife who really starts from feelings and lives as a partner. It's easier said than done. After a person has lived for a lifetime, each of them will have their own family conditions, their own circle of friends, their own relatives, and their own living habits. Different lifestyles and living habits will make two people live in life. It takes most of the time to get along, get along, and get in touch, but they are a lot of age. How can those different habits and different living conditions change so easily, so it will also make many elderly people get married before marriage. Talk well, talk about your own conditions, and avoid wasting time and emotion! 55-year-old aunt: I have money and a house, and I can't even meet the three requirements to find a wife. It is better not to marry 55-year-old aunt Gao:
I have lived alone for nearly eight years, and my wife passed away a long time ago. Later, I was alone with my children, working and living at the same time. Later, my daughter went to college, and after graduating, I had a job and a family. My daughter is not far away. I got married, but it wasn’t close to my home. All of a sudden, I was the only one left at home, and it made me feel a little deserted. I thought that the girl would come back. Now, as soon as my daughter gets married, I feel that she is far away from me, and I am the only one left in this family. My parents left early, and my parents-in-law have not been in touch very often since my wife passed away. They still have a son, so I don’t have to worry about the pension. My only daughter is also married. I often feel that I live It has been a lifetime, and when I grow old, I become a person, and there is still some sadness. Before retiring, I thought about retirement, and it was because many friends introduced me to people, and the most common sentence they said was: "If you don't find a wife, I will wait for you to move in the future. No, I'm sick, and I don't even have anyone to serve you." After listening to it a lot, I seem to have started to think about this matter, after all, when I'm older, it's easy to think about it a lot, and gradually I also began to think about finding a wife. It happened, and I thought about it at the time. After all, there is no one at home, and it is still very difficult for me to live alone. In this way, I began to think about finding a wife, and started a blind date with the introduction of relatives and friends. In fact, at the beginning of the blind date, I still had great hopes, and the requirements for the other half were not high. My situation was ok. I had a pension, a house, and retirement savings. Naturally, I wanted to find a situation. People who are similar to me can get along a little easier and happier. But then reality hit me one after another. During the five or six blind dates, I met one after another with very good conditions. Among them, three were people I was very satisfied with. The first was a retired teacher who was five years older than me and had gray hair. But fortunately, he is still in good health, has a pension, a house, and the conditions are very good. During the process of contacting him, I can also feel his temperament. good feeling. However, when we were planning to get married and get a license after we had been in contact for a while, I found that he was not so specific in his feelings. During the process of our contact and understanding, he was also in contact with other people of the opposite sex at the same time. In the end, I was also greatly disappointed. chose to give up. One of them is two or three years older than me. He is a small boss. If you have money, you are rich. He is also very humorous and good at communicating with people. I also have a good impression of him. I still found his non-uniqueness. He was chatting on his mobile phone when we often ate. I didn't care about it at first, but when he went to the toilet, I couldn't help but glance at him, and I noticed that he was talking to him. Others chatted, I was also disappointed, and finally chose to give up! The third one makes me very satisfied. The person I am willing to contact is a person my age who has not retired yet. According to him, after retirement, he can earn four or five thousand yuan a month, and he also has his own house, and his health is also poor. Still very healthy. During the process of getting along, I also felt the kind of care he had for me. I was very moved for a time. I was going to go down with him and live with him, but he told me one thing that made me feel bad. It was very difficult for me to accept it. He said, "My son has given birth to a second child. Maybe you need to help for one or two years after you come here, but only for one or two years. They said no, and wanted to find a nanny, but I think a nanny is a good person after all. Outsiders, I think if you can help take care of them, you can also help them relieve the pressure in their lives." I was dissatisfied, and felt that he was looking for a wife to find a free babysitter for his son, and finally I chose to give up. In addition to the relatively suitable conditions of these three, other blind date objects are either in poor health or poor conditions, and have not met a suitable partner for a long time, but after these experiences, I also have my own opinion, If you can't even meet the three requirements to find a wife, it is better not to marry! The first requirement: physical condition
I think the reason why I remarried later in life was to find a suitable partner to take care of each other , to accompany each other, to live together, not to find a sick seedling and let me take care of him after marriage, so the first condition for looking for a wife is that the other party's physical condition is better, to be healthy, only in this way can we protect us Life after being together is more stable and easier. Second requirement: One must have a single-minded attitude towards life and know how to care for the elderly
Everyone has different attitudes towards retirement and different preparations for retirement. I feel that I have to worry about my children and help them with their lives when I get old. This kind of idea is not reluctant to accept. Instead of blindly helping children, you must understand that retirement is for your own life and to plan for the rest of your life, instead of continuing to not know how to care for your children, still worrying about children, transitioning To help the children, while ignoring the quality of the elderly care, the attitude towards life must be single-minded. Whether it is treating me or treating my own life, it is necessary to be single-minded, so that I can go on. The third requirement: I need to give a gift of 50,000 yuan
In fact, I don’t want this 50,000 yuan for the purpose of There are only two reasons for such an old age, and there are only two reasons. The first one is to show the other party's economic situation, at least he has the ability to marry me, and the second most important one is to make him take me seriously. , It is not simply to marry me, but to pay, so that in the future, I will be able to pay more attention to me, treat me better, and cherish me more. Besides, I have money and a house, and I am not short of money! Although I have also determined my request to find my other half, but I still haven't met the right person. As for whether I will meet the right person in the future, I don't know, I just think that if these three requirements are not met, I might as well not marry. If remarriage will make my life more difficult, then it is better for me to live alone. Write at the end:
Don't think that the love of the elderly is just to live a good life and live a good life, but on the contrary, in old age The relationship between the two should pay more attention to the quality of the relationship and the quality of life after two people are together, because they have reached this age, and life is for themselves. If two people live together, they are not as good as their own. If you are a human being, then it is really not as easy and pleasant as your own life! The relationship of the elderly is not easy, because it will involve the physical state, the interference of children, and the quality of the old age, etc. You must be clear about your needs and your life in your later years. be able to live happily.