Whether it's a couple or a couple, the relationship is so faded
All my ambitions, but a lifetime of freedom Intimacy makes the whole family better and better." I remember a sentence: "All comfortable, long-term, and happy marriages are the result of hard work." Stable, married, there is no worries. It is precisely because you are married that you need to manage your marriage relationship well, so that your love can be kept fresh and your marriage happier. Whether it is love or marriage, the relationship between two people has weakened because they did not work hard, or one party worked hard while the other escaped. The main manifestations are as follows. 1. No more communication How to solve 80% of the problems in marriage, there are many people who have come to give an answer - good communication. The more familiar, the closer, the more difficult it is for people to empathize. The so-called empathy is to think more from the perspective of the other party when speaking and doing things. This is where the importance of communication becomes even more apparent. Whether it is a couple or between husband and wife, communication is not only about you and me verbally, but also emotionally. The first obvious feature of emotional indifference is that two people are unwilling to talk and communicate well. Obviously a very small thing, because there is no timely explanation, no timely exchange of the most true thoughts in each other's hearts, the grievances are accumulating, the contradictions are getting bigger and bigger, and the relationship will only get colder and colder. There are many such examples around. The husband and wife originally had a quarrel, but they both chose to avoid it, choose a cold war, and use silence to make each other's hatred grow. In other words, one party actively communicates, and the other party always avoids talking about it, and is unwilling to take the initiative to communicate positively to solve the problem, but just blindly let the problem ferment and let the relationship drop to freezing point. In intimate relationships, timely communication and good communication are very necessary. Studies have found that two people who sit together before going to bed or often chat and communicate have a closer relationship, whether it is nonsense chatting or short things about parents, this is an effective way to increase intimacy. Strive to manage an intimate relationship, starting with speaking well and communicating actively. 2. Disrespect each other Whenever, respect is the first. "I think he doesn't love me anymore, because I don't know when to start, he won't discuss anything with me, not only won't ask my opinion, but also never respect my decision." This is a recent colleague Kobayashi's complaint. "In the past, no matter it was a big or small matter, he would calmly discuss with me, some of my ideas and some suggestions, he would respect me if he felt good. Not long ago, I wanted to change to a bigger refrigerator and spend my own salary. I talked to him several times, but he didn't agree. He also said that I only know how to spend money. But a family with two children has a lot of things to prepare. Not only did he not understand, but he also said that I don't know how to save money It didn't take long for his sister to buy a car. He didn't ask me, but gave his sister 50,000 yuan. I don't know if it was borrowed or given. I still knew it from others. We are an ordinary family. A refrigerator of 5,000 quick money is reluctant to give up, but 100,000 yuan is given without negotiation. There are also many trivial matters in ordinary times, which can be seen as perfunctory and disrespectful. I am really very depressed and tired. ." Only respect each other between husband and wife/couples, take the initiative to stand in each other's perspective and think more about everything, take the initiative to discuss things, and listen to each other's voice more. After all, respect is mutual. Only when two people respect each other will they make each other feel that they are not regarded as outsiders, and will kiss each other. 3. If you don't understand each other in any relationship, you must understand each other, understand each other's difficulties, heal each other with your actions or words, become a light in each other's life, and warm each other. "I'm working overtime today for two hours late, so you don't cook. You play with your phone for two hours and wait for me to come back and cook. You go to work and I go to work, so you can't be considerate of me." "I've been socializing a lot recently. I'm also working for work, can't you just keep calling and texting me? I report on time every day, for fear of you being unhappy. But when I came back from a busy day, the room was not tidy, the kitchen was a mess, and you cooked If you didn't leave it to me, can't you understand more about my hard work?" Such complaining words come and go in our daily life, only more or less. Don't consider each other, just blindly want the other party to think of yourself, always think of yourself, no matter how much you love you, there will be times when you are tired. Because no matter who they are, they all need care, love, and warmth to relieve physical and mental exhaustion. Instead of complaining all the time, it is better to reflect on yourself first to see if you have truly understood and understood, express your love first, and let the other party feel your love, so that he can give you more love. Fourth, the pace is no longer the same. One person strives to make progress, is positive and optimistic, and one person always complains that others are standing still. Such two people, no matter how much they love each other, will eventually be defeated by reality. Many couples have been together for several years, but when they saw that they were getting married, they broke up. Some people say it's not enough love, some people say it's lost to reality, and some people say it's too selfish. In fact, there is another reason: the two are no longer on the same runway. Society is a place where people's abilities are truly tested. Many times, when we first enter society, we are all prone to encounter difficulties, and the real test begins at this time. Some people become more and more courageous, some people stop, some people work hard, and some people are content with the moment. Every choice is good for every choice, but when one of the two of you is working hard and being motivated, and the other only knows that playing games is a day, can the relationship last for a long time? Whether it is love or marriage, two people need to understand each other, be considerate of each other, respect each other, communicate and solve things together, work hard in one place, and think in one place, then the relationship will flow and get better and better. Above, share! Moon Lane, you can follow me if you like it, or follow my public account~ Moon Lane