Elderly people who have a good life after retirement, most have few friends and few things to do
Retirement is a watershed in our life. The life before retirement seems to be somewhat passive, but how to live after retirement is something we can actively choose. In our life, we see many old people who are still in high spirits after retirement. It is not all kinds of chores in the collective team, or trivial matters in the community. The taste of it. After retirement, those elderly people who are really comfortable and have a good life are mostly elderly people with few friends and few things to do. Because there are few friends, a lot of unnecessary right and wrong and unnecessary social interaction will be reduced. Because there are few things to do, the heart will be at peace, and you can quietly do your favorite hobbies. The old man who is immersed in his hobbies has his own taste. Few friends, not tired
Mr. Yang Jiang once said: "Life is the ultimate, it must be Jane and quiet! Beautiful to the extreme, it must be simple and elegant! The fleeting fireworks are in the sky, and the water is the fireworks in the world. The most important thing in life is not happiness but peace!” The retired old man has gone through the storms of the first half of his life. , has also been dusted and polished by the years, I have long understood the vicissitudes of the world, the world is cold, I understand that life is only a life of our own state of mind; I know that happiness is not the so-called high pension and the size of the house, but the inner peace of our old people. peaceful. After retirement, those old people who have a good life will not look for "their presence" in the crowd. They are more concerned about their inner tranquility and enjoy their own good time. There are not many friends, but the heart, the heart, and the heart. "It's rare to have a confidant in life." When we live to old age, we already understand the meaning of "friends are useless" by Professor Chen Guo, and understand the heart-to-heart sympathy between true friends, instead of calling ourselves "friends, girlfriends" when we meet "Plastic Friendship. When people reach a certain age, most of them like to be quiet. They are willing to use a calm heart to wait for a flower to bloom, to watch a snow fall, to listen to the pine wind blowing through the courtyard, to watch the clouds roll in the clouds, and the world to see everything. All are beautiful. Therefore, most elderly people who have a good life after retirement have few friends, so they have less troubles, less miscellaneous things to participate in, and more time for themselves, so they can meditately do what they like and let their Peace of mind. Mr. Yang Jiang said: "We were so eager for the waves of fate, but in the end we discovered that the most beautiful scenery in life is actually the calmness and calmness of the heart." The real life is always full of mud and sand, with laughter and tears. Fortune depends on misfortune, and misfortune depends on fortune. People who understand this will not be too persistent. Don't be attached to sadness, don't be immersed in joy. Many elderly people care about their presence in the crowd, and always think that only when they truly "get in with the group" will they have friends to help and talk to each other. As everyone knows, in many cases, it is because of the shallowness of the predestined relationship that we are deeply passive. We treat others as true friends, while others just want to "watch the fun without taking it too seriously" mentality. Before retirement, in order to survive, we had to make so-called "friends"; after retirement, in order to live the life you want, you can make fewer "friends", one or two close friends are enough. is the best life. There are not many things to do, keep your heart
As the old saying goes: sickness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth. . In fact, the old people after retirement talk a lot because they feel that they have nothing to do anyway, and they only need to say something more if they can help. Who knows, it is precisely because they often say something more, they not only find right and wrong for themselves, but also make others think of you. He's an "old man with a lot of work". In particular, when we take part in community or social group activities after retirement, we must not do "bag inquiries" and so-called "little intelligence". Maybe in the beginning, others think you are amazing, you know everything, and it doesn't matter. It can be done, but if you wait for a long time, you should take care of it, and you should not take care of it. If you want to participate, it will be annoying. In a team, there are so many "good people" is the disaster of the team. No matter who has something to do, they want to find out what is going on with them. They ask endlessly, and say something "old in the sky", which makes people feel anxious and troubled. After retirement, we will not leave the society because we don’t work, but because we have retired, we must know more about society and human nature, and we must learn to guard our hearts, keep our mouths shut, and say less about what we shouldn’t say and less about what we don’t. Do what you need to do, just do it yourself. There was a sister in the dance team who was a little awkward with her parents, so she wept sadly when everyone was active. Ordinary people will ask, but after the good people "inquired", the team publicized that this sister's parents' serious partiality caused them to be unfair in terms of money. He also said a lot of things that were not there. In the end, I didn't know who told this sister. Now, the team was lively, and the fight didn't say anything, and people were hurt. "Good words don't go out, bad words travel thousands of miles." After retirement, we must know that "cherishing words is golden, silence is golden". Some people, some things, if you don't participate, you will be said by "concerned people" with nose and eyes, not to mention the more busy you are, the more lively it will be. Therefore, most of the old people who live their lives quietly will "keep your mouth and your heart" in the team, ignore gossip and gossip, quietly follow everyone to exercise together, speak kind words, and communicate with each other. Just be happy. Concluding remarks:
Mr. Yang Jiang has a very down-to-earth sentence: the highest punishment is silence, and the most reserved revenge is ignorance. Less entangled in bad things, less angry with people who are not worth it, and let yourself live a little more noble. Learn to let go and move forward better. This world may seem complicated, but in fact, it is still your own world. Life is the rise and fall of the morning, and the days are the firewood, rice, oil and salt. Live plainly, live simply, don't like to cause trouble to others, and don't make trouble for yourself, listen to the wind when the wind comes, listen to the rain when the rain comes, and life is just fine. After retirement, the elderly should live their own lives quietly, manage their families well, get along well with their children, help their children when they can, and be kind to themselves and those around them. When you reach a certain age, you will understand that in this world, except for life and death, everything else is a scratch, there is no pimple that cannot be solved, and there is no experience that cannot be overcome. All the things you think you can't pass will pass. If life is simpler, there will be fewer troubles, unnecessary social interactions and gatherings will be reduced, there will not be so many so-called "friends", and things will be much less; Refuse to gregarious, not casual old people, enjoy the quiet beauty of alone time, use the residual heat in your heart, do what you like, warm yourself, and illuminate others. Author: Huagui Zenxin pays attention to my words and walks into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, let's talk about the rest of our lives together. The pictures in the text are from the Internet.